Reader Q&A Emergency! Baby is Due Tomorrow

Reader Q&ABabyDueTomorrow

When reader Kimberly approached me today for Baby Name Coaching, I would have loved to help her, but unfortunately she needs a name by tomorrow!

The title is somewhat misleading. Kimberly’s baby isn’t due tomorrow. It was due on June 6!

I don’t know many details. One thing is for sure: time is of the essence.

Due to the short notice, I had to tell her that my schedule does not allow me to do a baby name consultation for her.

The good news is, since she has already narrowed her choices down to three names, I suggested she allow me to post her names on UBN as a poll. She graciously agreed.

She has some lovely names on her list:

  • Eloise Jane
  • Daphne Eloise
  • Eliza Daphne

Her older children are Jillian and Oliver.

Help Kimberly find a name. Place your vote below or feel free to chime in with a comment!

Are Names Too Unusual or Too Common? Which Causes More Baby Name Regret?

which types of names cause more baby name regret

Back in 2011, ABC News ran this segment claiming parents regretted picking names for their children that ended up being too common.

Yet that wasn’t the experience of UBN reader, Maddie, who had a case of unusual name regret.

And then this past week, I stumbled upon this article where the writer shares her regret for picking the unusual name Ransom for her son.

Over the past 4 years has the baby name pendulum swung the other way? Have parents gone from seeking unusual names to regretting them?

Or is there another aspect at play here?

After all, not all unusual names are created equal.

Ransom is a perfect example of a name that has other issues beyond being considered unusual. There is the obvious negative meaning of course, but also the similarity of other common words such as “random” and “rancid”.

Lara is an example of a name that might be considered unusual in the sense that its uncommon, and yet its sound is very mainstream and it is easy to spell.

One thing is apparent to me. I have heard conflicting reports in the media mostly based on anecdotal evidence.

I would like to hear from you. Which is more likely to cause more baby name regret, an unusual name or a common name?

Reader Q&A: Naming Boy #4!

Naming Boy #4

Anytime a new reader signs up to become part of the UBN email community, I ask the reader to share their biggest baby name challenges.

I was intrigued when reader Britney shared the following:

The most difficult aspect is naming multiple of the same gender! I am expecting my 4th son. :)

I asked Britney if I could offer some suggestions and share her predicament with all of you. She graciously agreed and added more information:

I actually found your blog because of your post on Nameberry where you mentioned all 3 of my boys’ names as names that could become Modern Classics. My boys are named Jacob, Colin, and Maxwell (nn Max). This was the post:

http://nameberry.com/blog/modern-classic-baby-names-cecilia-calvin-and-colin

Many of the other names you mentioned in that post are names we have considered. My husband is also a 4th son, and out of the 12 grandkids on his side so far, 10 are boys! It must be something genetic to have sons in this family.

Do you want to know some of the names we are currently considering? Or would you like a blank slate? Our last name starts with R and rhymes with Tool, so names with a heavy R don’t seem to have as good of flow.

I would like each boy to have their own initial and sound of name. There are a lot of names we’ve thought about that feel too similar to another. I like Oliver, but we call Colin Collie, and an Ollie and Collie would be confusing. Dylan has been another name we like, but I wonder if it’s too close having 2 names that end in the sound -lin. I’ve also liked Caleb, but it’s almost a letter for letter exchange of Jacob and Colin. Owen and Colin also feel too similar.

That’s one of the reasons we are struggling, beyond just the normal trying-to-get-two-parents-to-agree problem. Thankfully, my husband and I have similar taste.

My response:

The first name that popped into my head was Simon. To me it flows well with your other boys’ names and your last name.

  • Jacob
  • Colin
  • Maxwell/Max and
  • Simon

Simon “Tool with an R”

The next name that comes to mind is Felix:

  • Jacob
  • Colin
  • Maxwell/Max and
  • Felix

Felix “Tool with an R”

Simon and Felix do share the same endings as Colin and Max, however, that isn’t a drawback in my opinion. Colin and Simon do sound a little more repetitious than Max and Felix, and may have the same concerns you had with Colin and Owen. But Colin and Simon do not seem as confusing as your Collie and Ollie example.

This just shows that once you get to the point of naming your fourth kid, especially when all four kids are the same gender, there is bound to be some repetition. In this situation, I would only avoid the repetition if it’s excessive.

Thankfully Simon and Felix don’t share the same first initial as your older sons’ names and don’t have the strong R sound that conflicts with your last name.

I think you can’t go wrong with either one of these names, however, I did some digging to come up with other ideas:

Henry (I totally overlooked the R! My oversight.)

Isaac

Ivan

Kyle

Liam

Logan

Noah

Nolan

This is a good example of how older kids’ names eliminate other options. I considered Adrian, but nope, it has the R. I thought of Martin, but again it repeats the first initial M with Maxwell. (And again, Martin has that pesky R.) After doing some digging, I’m starting to really like Isaac from my second list. It doesn’t repeat initials, has no R, and even has a different ending than your other sons’ names.

I look forward to hearing what readers suggest.

Good Luck!

I got some more feedback from Britney that really drove home how personal preferences can really paint parents like her into a corner when naming the fourth baby:

Thank you so much for spending time to get us some ideas! You have some really good options here. I think my favorite of the list is Henry. Even with the R, this is a name we keep coming back to. It could be a name we would go with!

Issac would be a great fit with our boys, but my husband has a cousin with the same name. We both come from large, well-named families, so that is a further difficulty. :) Logan is also the name of a cousin of my boys. But they are both fantastic names. I also think Nolan is a little close to Colin, but it’s a great name, and one we’ve thrown around.

I think Simon is a name that could fit with our current sib set. I’ve never considered it, but I think it could grow on me. Felix is a name I’ve been hearing a lot more of lately, and it’s growing on me as well. This is why I’ve been trying to find out an answer early–some names take a little time to simmer! :)

Again, thank you so much for the suggestions! You did a great job nailing our style.

Thanks again Britney for sharing your story.

And if you find a name you really like that breaks your no-R rule, I encourage you to use the name anyway. I don’t think R always causes any problems with your last name. I would only avoid names that end in R to prevent run-on.

Readers: What is your favorite name for Britney’s fourth boy?

 

Emma: The Comeback Queen – Video

A couple of years ago, I wrote about Emma, and what makes it different from other top 5 names.

Fast forward to 2014 and my brother and sister-in-law name their daughter Emma.

Now seemed like the perfect time to remake that post into a video presentation and dedicate it to our newest family member: Emma Winifred.

Winifred is our 96-year-old grandmother’s name.

The charts show visually what makes the name different from other top vintage revival names. You can see where Emma ranked when different pop culture events from the ‘80s, ‘90s, and 2000s help propel the name back to the top.

Some people might think that I, someone who likes finding uncommon names, wouldn’t be excited about my brother and sister-in-law’s name pick. Those people would be wrong. Emma has been a top 3 names for along time for good reason. Emma is cute and smart. It pairs nicely with longer middle names like my grandmother’s name, Winifred. I would only discourage Emma if it didn’t go well with the baby’s last names, and it goes well with most last names.

Having a niece named Emma has helped me rediscover what’s great about the name.

And as you will learn by watching the video, Emma has so many wonderful namesakes.

 

Name Spotting: Oceana

OceanaLast week I took Fiona to the hair salon for her back-to-school hair cut. While waiting for Fiona’s turn in the chair, I started looking at the hairstyle books in the waiting area.

In a book of children’s hair styles titled Passion Kids Volume 8, one of the models stuck out. All of the kiddies were adorable, but this girl was striking with dark hair, long dark eyelashes and blue-grey eyes.

And then I was pleasantly surprised to see that she had an equally striking name: Oceana.

No name seemed more fitting for this beautiful child with eyes that could almost be described as aquatic-colored.

Oceana is a feminine form of Oceanus, a name featured in UBN’s Names from the Mayflower. According to Nameberry, the variation Oceane (oh-she-ANN) is very fashionable in France.

Oceana has always been rare. It has never been in the US top 1000. There were only 25 newborn girls named Oceana last year.

The more literal Ocean is slightly more popular, but still uncommon, given to 62 girls and 85 boys last year.

This nautical name might seem whimsical, but when compared to names like Brook and River, it is a real possibility on a modern child.